Thoughts, insights and information about the divorce process. Nothing here should be considered to be legal advice. If you need legal advice, you need to hire a lawyer.

  • Planning Your Divorce Now Before the Holidays of 2023
    January 26, 2023 at 10:30 AM

    The holidays can be a stressful time for any divorcing couple, especially if there are children involved. With January being divorce month, now is the perfect time to start thinking about how you want to divide up the upcoming holiday season. Read on to learn more about how you can plan ahead and make sure that everyone knows the schedules for the holidays, has time to adjust, and heal before the major end-of-the-year holidays.

  • It's Never Too Late to Find Your Happiness: Divorce in 2023
    January 23, 2023 at 12:30 PM

    Every new year brings with it a chance for a fresh start. Is this your year to start fresh?

  • The January Divorce Phenomenon
    January 16, 2023 at 6:00 AM

    Why is January such a popular month to start on your divorce?

  • The ABCs of Open Enrollment For Health Care After a Divorce
    January 9, 2023 at 6:00 PM

    Navigating health insurance coverage after a divorce does not have to be a mine field

  • Filing for Divorce Early in the Year? Here’s Why It Makes Sense for Your Taxes
    January 3, 2023 at 12:00 PM

    It can be a better decision, tax wise, to get divorced early in the year so you are ready for the tax season next year

  • What Happens to the House in a Divorce?
    November 14, 2022 at 7:30 PM

    If you're going through a divorce, chances are one of the first questions on your mind is "What happens to the house?" Well, there isn't a simple answer because it depends on a number of factors, such as credit worthyness, if you have a mortgage, whether you want to keep the home or sell it, and whether you can afford to keep up with the mortgage payments on your own. Here's a look at some of the most common scenarios and what you need to know about each one.

  • How to cope when your spouse unexpectedly drops the D-word
    November 9, 2022 at 6:30 PM

    No one ever wants to hear the phrase "I want a divorce." But if you find yourself on the receiving end of those dreaded words, it's important to know how to react—both in the short-term and in the long-term. Here are some ideas if your spouse unexpectedly tells you that they want a divorce.

  • Dads Only Get the Weekends? Myths, Misconceptions and Truths about Parenting Plans in Illinois
    November 4, 2022 at 7:00 PM

    There's a lot of myths and misconceptions out there about parenting time and custody arrangements. It's time to set the record straight.

  • Adultery and Divorce
    October 31, 2022 at 8:30 PM

    Let's get something out of the way right off the bat: adultery does not have a special place in divorce proceedings. Many people believe that if one spouse has committed adultery, that spouse will face some sort of punishment during the divorce, but that simply is not the case. In the eyes of the law, adultery is completely irrelevant to the divorce process.

    So, if adultery doesn't have any bearing on the divorce itself, why do so many people believe that it does? Well, that's a complicated question with no easy answer. Here, we'll attempt to explore some of the reasons why adultery is often seen as a factor in divorce cases—even though it really isn't.

  • How to Save Money on Your Divorce with a Flat Fee Lawyer
    October 25, 2022 at 6:30 PM

    No one enters into a marriage expecting to get divorced, but unfortunately, it happens. If you find yourself in the situation where you need to get divorced, there are a lot of things to consider. Divorce can be an expensive process, but there are ways to save money. One way is by using a flat fee lawyer. Here's what you need to know about flat fee lawyers and how they can help you save money on your divorce

  • Does it matter what a horrible person my soon-to-be-ex was when the court looks at the evidence?
    October 21, 2022 at 8:30 PM

    In the State of Illinois there is one reason to get divorced: irreconcilable differences. The Courts do not consider reasons why the marriage broke down. Instead, the Court simply says, alright, its over, lets make it official.

  • Divorce Trials are Nothing Like Trials in Movies
    October 17, 2022 at 4:30 PM

    A divorce trial is considerably different than how it is protrayed in the movies or in TV Shows. They expose all the ugly and feel downright unfair.

  • Some Signs Your Marriage Might be Over
    October 14, 2022 at 12:00 PM

    There are some fairly common signs that your marriage is coming to an end.

  • How Much Does a Divorce Cost? (Hint: It's More Than You Think)
    October 10, 2022 at 11:30 AM

    No one gets married intending to divorce. But, as the old saying goes, "Sh!t happens." And when it does, it can get pretty pricey—especially if you're not prepared for it. Here's a short primer on how much a divorce can cost, both emotionally and financially.

  • The Pros and Cons of Searching For a Good Lawyer Online
    October 3, 2022 at 3:00 PM

    In this day and age, anything and everything is just a click away. That includes finding a lawyer that can help you with your divorce or any other legal conflict you may be having. While it might be tempting to just go on the first search engine and pick the first lawyer that comes up (which was probably me), this might not be the best idea. Here are some pros and cons of searching for a good lawyer online to help you make a more informed decision

  • Can you just send my paperwork to the judge so they can divorce me if my soon-to-be-ex will not sign?
    September 27, 2022 at 11:30 AM

    The short answer is no. The system of law we have here is one where both sides get a chance to have their case presented to the judge. Not everyone takes this opportunity, and some waive it, but it is the right of due process.

  • Can I get an annulment in Illinois?

    Annulments are possible for people not validly married in the first place

  • Should I hire a divorce lawyer even if my divorce is simple?

    Even if your divorce is simple, you should have a divorce lawyer help you.

  • Legal Separation or Divorce?
    April 4, 2022 at 9:00 PM

    For some people, a judgment of separation makes more sense than a divorce. However, there are differences between the two and they can affect you. For the purposes of this, a marriage and a civil union are treated as the same thing.

  • Why lawyers are not jerks for refusing to give free advice
    March 14, 2022 at 4:30 PM

    We just don't want to give you wrong advice that hurts you.

  • Do I really have to give half my retirement to my soon-to-be-ex?
    March 8, 2022 at 9:30 PM

    Maybe...If you or your soon-to-be-ex added money ot a retirment account during marriage, then it could be divided. If you can reach agreements outside of court amicably, then you control if your retirement is divided.

  • How is child support determined
    February 24, 2022 at 1:30 PM

    Child support is determined by law. The calcualtions take into account the time you spend with your child.

  • I want to hire the best attorney
    February 17, 2022 at 7:30 PM

    Most attorney rankings are marking gimmicks, so I gave my self a trophy

  • Some Additional Starting Ideas
    February 2, 2022 at 7:00 PM

    Some ideas on where to start your discussions with your soon-to-be-ex

  • How to tell your child or children you are getting divorced
    January 11, 2022 at 1:30 PM

    Ideas on how to tell your children before you start the process

  • If I get therapy is the Court going to hold it against me?
    January 3, 2022 at 10:00 PM

    If you need mental health help, do no let your divorce prevent you from seeking it

  • Celebrating Christmas and other Holidays when you share time with your kids
    December 8, 2021 at 7:00 PM

    Holidays do not have to be a battlefield

  • Is it all marital property?
    October 20, 2021 at 6:00 PM

    If you are married, the answer is, likely yes

  • Is there a difference between a simple divorce and no contested or uncontested one?
    August 11, 2021 at 7:00 PM

    Short answer: No. There is no difference between a simple divorce and an uncontested one. In Illinois, the law has changed dramatically concerning divorces since I became a lawyer. When I first starting practicing, there were several grounds (reasons) f...

  • HIPAA and non-medical businesses
    May 28, 2021 at 6:30 PM

    Business can check vaccine status without violating HIPAA

  • What is an amicable divorce?
    May 18, 2021 at 8:00 PM

    Being open to discussions can save you tons of money

  • Diivorce attorneys are too jaded to be judgy
    April 4, 2021 at 6:00 PM

    Telling your attorney the truth is not going to get you judged

  • In- person appointments
    March 3, 2021 at 8:30 PM

    When I might begin seeing people in person

  • Law Cats and Cats practicing law
    February 10, 2021 at 8:00 PM

    The twitterverse was afire yesterday of the attorney who appeared in a Texas Court as a cat. He had to assure the Court he was not a cat. The hearing was on Zoom and highlighted how an older attorney was very uncomfortable being on a computer and could ...

  • Divorcing in 2021 might affect your taxes next year
    February 8, 2021 at 7:00 PM

    What your standard deduction is depends on your marital status on December 31.

  • I am now offering negotated, non-litigated divorces
    January 19, 2021 at 6:00 PM

    When the other side has a lawyer but we all agree to work through the case without the court's help

  • What is the difference between online divorce papers and a lawyer doing them for me?
    December 9, 2020 at 7:30 PM

    The difference between do-it-yourself divorce papers and a lawyer drafting your divorce

  • Divorces are divorces, or are they?
    November 9, 2020 at 9:30 PM

    Why someone familiar with the Metro East practice of law only handles work there.

  • The choices we make, or, why choosing to settle is usually better
    October 9, 2020 at 6:00 PM

    Let's say you are a perfectly normal middle-class family living outside St. Louis. You have a perfectly normal house, car, job, retirements, debts and a spouse you are done with. This is the reality of about 3,500 metro-east families every year. L...

  • Why I have chosen to turn down most litigation
    October 1, 2020 at 7:00 PM

    As Covid-19 continues, the Courts in Illinois have reopened. Some are zoom only, some are in-person, some are a hybrid of the two. I am immunocompromised and I have chronic migraines, which can be triggered when things are too tight around my head, pull...

  • Why maybe the best answer is I don’t know
    April 8, 2020 at 2:00 PM

    I am telling people I don't know a lot more than I used to