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Thoughts, insights and information about the divorce process. Nothing here should be considered to be legal advice. If you need legal advice, you need to hire a lawyer.

  • Why maybe the best answer is I don’t know
    April 8, 2020 at 2:00 PM

    I am telling people I don't know a lot more than I used to

  • Why I have chosen to turn down most litigation
    October 1, 2020 at 7:00 PM

    As Covid-19 continues, the Courts in Illinois have reopened. Some are zoom only, some are in-person, some are a hybrid of the two. I am immunocompromised and I have chronic migraines, which can be triggered when things are too tight around my head, pull...

  • The choices we make, or, why choosing to settle is usually better
    October 9, 2020 at 6:00 PM

    Let's say you are a perfectly normal middle-class family living outside St. Louis. You have a perfectly normal house, car, job, retirements, debts and a spouse you are done with. This is the reality of about 3,500 metro-east families every year. L...

  • Divorces are divorces, or are they?
    November 9, 2020 at 9:30 PM

    Why someone familiar with the Metro East practice of law only handles work there.

  • What is the difference between online divorce papers and a lawyer doing them for me?
    December 9, 2020 at 7:30 PM

    The difference between do-it-yourself divorce papers and a lawyer drafting your divorce

  • I am now offering negotated, non-litigated divorces
    January 19, 2021 at 6:00 PM

    When the other side has a lawyer but we all agree to work through the case without the court's help

  • Divorcing in 2021 might affect your taxes next year
    February 8, 2021 at 7:00 PM

    What your standard deduction is depends on your marital status on December 31.

  • Law Cats and Cats practicing law
    February 10, 2021 at 8:00 PM

    The twitterverse was afire yesterday of the attorney who appeared in a Texas Court as a cat. He had to assure the Court he was not a cat. The hearing was on Zoom and highlighted how an older attorney was very uncomfortable being on a computer and could ...

  • In- person appointments
    March 3, 2021 at 8:30 PM

    When I might begin seeing people in person

  • Diivorce attorneys are too jaded to be judgy
    April 4, 2021 at 6:00 PM

    Telling your attorney the truth is not going to get you judged

  • What is an amicable divorce?
    May 18, 2021 at 8:00 PM

    Being open to discussions can save you tons of money

  • HIPAA and non-medical businesses
    May 28, 2021 at 6:30 PM

    Business can check vaccine status without violating HIPAA

  • Should I hire a divorce lawyer even if my divorce is simple?

    Even if your divorce is simple, you should have a divorce lawyer help you.

  • Is there a difference between a simple divorce and no contested or uncontested one?
    August 11, 2021 at 7:00 PM

    Short answer: No. There is no difference between a simple divorce and an uncontested one. In Illinois, the law has changed dramatically concerning divorces since I became a lawyer. When I first starting practicing, there were several grounds (reasons) f...

  • Is it all marital property?
    October 20, 2021 at 6:00 PM

    If you are married, the answer is, likely yes

  • Celebrating Christmas and other Holidays when you share time with your kids
    December 8, 2021 at 7:00 PM

    Holidays do not have to be a battlefield

  • If I get therapy is the Court going to hold it against me?
    January 3, 2022 at 10:00 PM

    If you need mental health help, do no let your divorce prevent you from seeking it

  • How to tell your child or children you are getting divorced
    January 11, 2022 at 1:30 PM

    Ideas on how to tell your children before you start the process

  • Can I get an annulment in Illinois?

    Annulments are possible for people not validly married in the first place

  • Where do I start?
    February 2, 2022 at 7:00 PM

    Some ideas on where to start your discussions with your soon-to-be-ex

  • I want to hire the best attorney
    February 17, 2022 at 7:30 PM

    Most attorney rankings are marking gimmicks, so I gave my self a trophy

  • How is child support determined
    February 24, 2022 at 1:30 PM

    Child support is determined by law. The calcualtions take into account the time you spend with your child.

  • Do I really have to give half my retirement to my soon-to-be-ex?
    March 8, 2022 at 9:30 PM

    Maybe...If you or your soon-to-be-ex added money ot a retirment account during marriage, then it could be divided. If you can reach agreements outside of court amicably, then you control if your retirement is divided.

  • Why lawyers are not jerks for refusing to give free advice
    March 14, 2022 at 4:30 PM

    We just don't want to give you wrong advice that hurts you.

  • Legal Separation or Divorce?
    April 4, 2022 at 9:00 PM

    For some people, a judgment of separation makes more sense than a divorce. However, there are differences between the two and they can affect you. For the purposes of this, a marriage and a civil union are treated as the same thing.